Saturday, March 14, 2020
Why you should share your opinions out loudnot over email
Why you should share yur opinions out loudnot over emailleWho among us hasnt been in this situation You receive an email or text from someone you know and wonder, What did they mean by that? Are they mad at meor maybe they were just in a rush?? The truth is, although email has made it easier than ever before to send and receive messages with all of the people in our livesfrom friends and family members to professional contacts and moreit can be argued that the ease and convenience weve gained from modern forms of conversing have been offset by an unfortunate increase in a more impersonal approach to communication, and more opportunities for the mistranslation of a messages meaning and intent. googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) For humansand for all animals, reallythings like context, body language, and emotion factor heavily into how messages are delivered and received, and when these things are taken out of the equation, which happens when communicating over email, trouble can ensue.According to a recent Psychology Today article, Research by UCLA psychology professor emeritus Albert Mehrabian found that 7 percent of a message was derived from the words, 38 percent from the intonation, and 55 percent from the facial expression orbody language. In other words, the vast majority of communication is not carried by our words aloneelend surprisingly, research shows we communicate most effectively in real-life, real-time conversation.Just think about itif only 7% of our messages are derived from the actual words we use, thats a whopping 93% thats left to speculation, guesswork, and possible misinterpretation when we communicate over email without the helpful cues that face-to-face communication providesThis gets especially important when youre talking with someone about a potentially controversial subject or have opposing views on a topic. According to a recent article on Ladders, when were facing someone with a point of vi ew thats in opposition to our own, we respond more favorably and humanely when the conversations includes voice vs. words, which helps to keep discourse civil.The Ladders article suggests that vocal communication may be a better vehicle for controversial conversations because those vocal tics of inflection, intonation, and normal pauses humanize us in ways that get lost over a text message where emotion is implied in emoji and punctuation, and tone is easy to miscommunicateIf you want your controversial take to be seen as more than mindless drivel, get off your tastatur and give the person a call.This information can have a profound effect on how we operate at work. behauptung days, so much of our work lives are spent alone at our desks, silently typing away a volley of email missives on our computers and phones all day. With the volume of email we send out, it would be quite a challenge to stop and think about how each and every message we send will be construed by every receiverth at would be exhaustingTherefore, some general rules of thumb might be helpful here use email when sending simple and straightforward messages that are free from emotion, critical evaluation, and potentially controversial opinions. If your messages do contain these items, consider stepping away from your keyboard and engaging in a face-to-face conversationold-fashioned perhaps, but it just might save you from an uncomfortable, awkward, or embarrassing situation.
Monday, March 9, 2020
News Flash Its Okay to Not Be Passionate About Your Career
News Flash Its Okay to Not Be Passionate About Your Career Karilyn Dearie, a hiring manager and career expert at cover letter builder CV Genius, savors each of zu sich mornings. She sips a cup of coffee while reading an article or two before heading out to zu sich office, which is only a 10-minute walk from her home. She looks forward to going to work she loves her job, she says, though shes leid necessarily fulfilled by it.Checking emails, writing content, advising clients and managing hiring and onboarding agendas welchesnt anything shed highly anticipated her whole life. Whenever anyone asked her what shed wanted to be when she was growing up, she never had an answer.I expected that to suddenly change in university, or during internships or, at the very least, when I entered the workforce but it didnt, she explains. I never found that dream career that was supposed to determine my purpose in life. Instead, I began to discover what I want to be outside of my job not as an employ ee, but as a person.Dearie says her fulfillment comes from the city in which she lives, the people with whom she spends her days and the places shes able to explore she loves to travel.I go into work every day of the week, fulfill my duties and go home knowing that my actions have afforded me the opportunity to pursue the things that make me truly happy, she says. I find enjoyment in my work. But I dont find fulfillment in it. And thats okay.Why Is It Okay to Not Be Passionate About Your Work?Dearie isnt overly passionate about her job. One of the joys she does find in her job, however, is interacting with her coworkers, who tend to congregate where the coffee is dispensed. She says its always a pleasure to start her mornings with some camaraderie over caffeine. Besides, shes passionate about people whether its with her coworkers or her clients so the connections she makes because of her job are a major motivator for her.Shed entered her line of work about six months after univers ity after traveling under the guise that itd give her some clarity to realize what she wanted to do with her life. She wanted to continue to travel, eat strange food, drink entirely too much coffee and meet weird and wonderful people from around the world. But, of course, that lifestyle costs a pretty penny, so she took a job with a stable paycheck and the ability to work remote when the itch to explore becomes overwhelming.One of the big attractions of my current job is the company culture and people I work with, she says. As it turns out, weird and wonderful people can be found whether youre at home or abroad. While the work I do may not necessarily be fulfilling, the opportunity to make connections with amazing individuals definitely is.Dearie isnt alone in feeling this way about work. Like Dearie, some women who are fulfilled by their work just mora so cherish a work-life balance.To say my job fulfills me is an understatement,says Jessie Woods, a New Jersey-based landscape archi tect. Im so lucky to have found a field that Im so passionate about one in which I shape the city from the ground up, implement different methods to combat climate change and boost resiliency, and engage with the public to create outdoor spaces worth being in. While I think being a landscape architect is one of the top three fundamentals that make me up as a person, Ive recently realized that I definitely dont live my life to work.One of the milestones that really proved the importance she places on work-life balance was when she recently declined a job offerto which shed have to spend way mora time commuting.I ended up adopting my dog shortly after that and Im not sure that would have happened had I had a job that was more time consuming, she explains. Its impossible to imagine my life without her and that helped me learn that being equally fulfilled by your work and your personal life doesnt make you less successful.Another woman, whod asked to keep her identity concealed to prot ect her job, says that she does love her work and, though it doesnt entirely fulfill her, its necessary in getting her to the next level a level in which shed feel more passion.Sometimes I just feel like Im in a rut, she explains she works in the administrative office of a family practice in Philadelphia. I think everyone must feel this way at some point in there lives, especially in their mid-20s just kind of stuck, wanting to do something more. But its okay because Im doing what I have to do to get to where I want to be.She, too, finds enjoyment in her job, helping oft-terminally ill, young patients. It feels good to help, she recognizes, but she knows that its not going to be the job she works for the rest of her life. Right now, it pays the bills so she can save up for moreschool to be a psychologist.Im working in this field so I can save up for school while making contacts in the industry, she explains. I definitely love what Im doing, but its not the most fulfilling thing I could be doing. Thatd be working with patients one on one. Thats what Im really passionate about, and Ill get there.Why Are Some People Unfulfilled by Work?According to data by Gallup, only 13 percent of employees are actually engaged in their jobs, or emotionally invested in their work and focused on helping their organizations improve. The data, based on nationally representative polling samples in 2011 and 2012 from more than 140 countries, suggests that 63 percent of people are not engaged (or simply unmotivated and unlikely to exert extra effort), and 24 percent are actively disengaged (or truly unhappy and unproductive).According to Forbes, the top five reasons professionals dislike their work are because the skills they need to use to succeed in their job feel difficult and uncomfortable for them the rampant toxicity or crushing demands exhaust and depress them the outcomes theyre working on feel either meaningless or wrong they sense theyre made for something much better, mo re meaningful and more exciting and they long to use different talents, and leverage their creativity and ingenuity but have no idea how to do that and make the money they need.Of course, as in Dearies case, working a job that isnt quite fulfilling doesnt necessarily mean that its dreaded. But the research is proof that there are a number of people who wake up each morning feeling entirely uninspired.Should You Pursue Your Passion Instead?Despite the many ways we all feel about our careers, there are volumes oftext online and in self-helpbooks that adviseus all to followourpassions in our work lives if we want to be fulfilled. We spend a good chunk of our days at work, anyway. But that leaves a lot of people leise wondering, CanIearn a living doing it? or Would it still bemypassion ifIhad to do it every day to make money? Also, Would I start to resent it if it didnt earn me a living?Sometimes I think about the things that do fulfill me and wonder if theres a career that allows me to collect a paycheck for doing them whatever Anthony Bourdains does is the only solution Ive come up with so far, Dearie adds. But then again, I think, would that ruin my passions? Does Anthony Bourdain maintain his zest for food, travel and adventure, or is it all just a job for him now? I would hate to diminish my passions in life because I attach a value to my achievement of them.Dearie advises other women just entering the workforce not to lose sleep over figuring out what to be in life.University felt like a mob mentality of everyone feeding off of each others anxiety over what to do when the dreaded graduation day arrived, she remembers. Everything was so centered around what to do, what to be and how to achieve these arbitrarily-defined notions of success, that it was impossible not to be constantly swept up in the chaos of it... The only thing you really need to be in life is happy.--AnnaMarie Houlis is a multimedia journalist and an adventure aficionado with a keen cultural curiosity and an affinity for solotravel. Shes an editor by day and a travel blogger at HerReport.org by night.
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